So You Better Do the Right Thing Like Spike Lee

This goes without saying: Do the right thing. People lose so many opportunities and potential money because they won’t do the right thing.

Yesterday I published a podcast episode and show notes, “How to Rediscover Who You Really Are.” These show notes are noticeably shorter my previous show notes. Why? Because I cancelled my contract with my show note producer. Over time she kept increasing the amount of time she needed to summarize the show. She went from 1.5 hours to 2.5 hours. I didn’t make a big deal about it because she was actually producing higher quality show notes which is good for SEO.

I didn’t think she operated with the most integrity because even as my episodes shorten from one week to the next she still took the same amount of time. In the back of mind I was considering not working with her anymore. She is a really sweet person and she does do some digging to find relevant links and whatnot. However, it just always seemed as though her hours reflected more of what she wanted to get paid and less of how much time she genuinely needed to complete the task.

And then I took the month of June off. When I came back she took 3.5 hours to do a 20 minute episode. I immediately cancelled the contract. She was making up for lost time. Yet, how much did she give up trying to compensate for the loss of June income (which is the nature of freelancing)? Hundreds if not thousands.

Doing the wrong thing even if you’re a really nice person will eventually catch up to you. People are not stupid. They notice. And if they’re like me they’re not going to tell you over and over again. I called my assistance out one time when I thought she took more time than she needed. But I didn’t nag her about. I took notice. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. And when she pushed the envelope too far I discontinued using her services without warning.

I’ve come across a lot of shady people in real estate investing and in blogging/podcasting. You lose opportunities when you don’t do the right thing. I wrote about John the roofer in the past. John did a shoddy job on one of my roofs. And then he went ghost. But I have multiple houses and I know other landlords. It would be in his best interest to do a great job to get repeat business and referrals.

Again, it really goes without saying, but apparently it needs to be said. Do the right thing. People notice.

If you make a commitment to do something do it.

If you promise your client or potential client you’re going to do x, y, z do x, y, z. Don’t just do x or x and y. Do it all because they signed up for it all. I’ve worked with coaches where they rattle off all these things they’re going to do for you before you agree to work with them. Yet once you start working with them they don’t do it. Not because they’re bad people, but because they don’t pay attention to what they’ve agreed to. And that don’t care enough to ensure they’re following through.  Doing the right thing means not over-promising intentionally or unintentionally. It means not making agreements without making note of what you’ve agreed to. It means having a process to deliver upon what you have promised. It means having a strong follow through.

If you’re getting paid by the hour don’t pad your hours. Be honest. Save your client money when you can.  It’s easy to compare how much value you received for your money across time or services. People will eventually know that the value of their dollar is decreasing.

If you’ve been given an opportunity you don’t deserve knock it out of the park. Make the person who gave you the opportunity think, “Man, I thought I was blessing them but they blessing me.” Don’t take on an opportunity and then do nothing. Do your part. It’s the right thing to do.

Always do the right thing, because if you don’t you will lose more than you gained by doing the wrong thing. But beyond that do the right thing because it’s the right thing to do. Don’t be self serving in your dealings. Don’t focus so much on what you have to gain that you don’t actually give anything.

Be a person of integrity by doing the right thing like Spike Lee.


July Daily Disciplines: Day 11 Check-In

Today is Day 11 of my  31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge.

Here’s my Day 11 Check-In:

Read the bible everyday – ☑ I continued in Matthew today.

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ☑ Yay! Rebounded on the water intake.

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog/podcast I published earlier today titled “How to Rediscover Who You Really Are.”

Eat healthy – ☑ Eating pretty good today. Not low carb, because I had a panini (half for lunch and half for dinner).

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – ☑ I almost didn’t. Today was really a struggle to accomplish all I committed to doing, but I pushed through. That’s what discipline is about. Pushing through when you don’t feel like it.

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – N/A


FCTB031: How to Rediscover Who You Really Are

I’m convinced most people don’t know who they are. Life conditions us at a young age to suppress our true selves. We suppress ourselves to protect ourselves, to fit in, or even just to make sense of why something did or didn’t happen. Yet at some point the brick wall we’ve built around ourselves begins to hold us back. We’re not really living our best lives.

In this episode I discuss:

  • How we lose ourselves
  • How we can find ourselves


July Daily Disciplines: Day 10 Check-In

Today is Day 10 of my  31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge.

Here’s my Day 10 Check-In:

Read the bible everyday – ☑ I continued in Matthew today. I sort of abandoned Exodus (for the time being) because I wanted to learn more about Jesus. I’ve heard or read these stories before, but I’ve just been especially interested in getting to know Jesus better lately.

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ❌ Similar to yesterday I didn’t quite get in enough water. It’s a quarter til 10 so I’m going to try to get the rest in before I go to bed.

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog I published earlier today titled “How to Stay Ready.”

Eat healthy – ☑ Eating on lock today! I’m learning weekends are a trouble spot for me. I have to work on that.

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – N/A

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – ☑


How to Stay Ready

Yesterday I attended the Stay Ready Conference hosted by Eric Thomas & Associates. Attending personal growth conferences is one of my favorite things to do. And so many come through Houston which is a blessing! Similar to other conferences I’ve attended here are some of my key takeaways:

Be Who You Are

Willie Moore, Jr. graced the stage to tell us to be who we are which is a message I often spread as well. Willie says that you can’t be blessed while you’re pretending. If you pretend like you have it all together no one is going to reach out to help you. They think you don’t need any help. There’s opportunity that comes with being vulnerable so be who you are.

“I declare right now that you will win on purpose.” – Willie Moore, Jr.

Your Lineage is Counting on You

“If I don’t do what I’m supposed to do my lineage won’t be able to do what they’re destined to do.” – Inky Johnson

Inky Johnson said that our lineage is counting on us.  This thing is bigger than us. Other people down the line will build upon what we’ve done. Our lives will open or close doors for them.

In order to stay ready so that your lineage can be ready you have to keep the right perspective. Inky has experienced a lot in his life. He lived in a house where his uncles sold drugs. His mother worked at Wendy’s. He could have ended up in jail like his relatives. He could have worked a menial job. He could have lost it. He could have gave up, but his perspective has allowed him to persevere through even the biggest challenges.

He went to college when people told him that he wouldn’t. He made it to the NFL. Early in his career his arm was injured and paralyzed. Once again he could have thrown in the towel and lost all hope. But he persevered and now he has built a career inspiring people to be their best.

“If I can get the right perspective about the situation nine out of ten times I can beat the situation.” – Inky Johnson

Inky says that we have too many options. He tells the story of how he went to pick strawberries with his family. Some of his family members were like, “I’m not feeling this” and went back to the car. They gave up because they could. But our ancestors picking cotton couldn’t just walk away whenever they got ready. That option wasn’t available to them. But we have a plethora of options and we can exercise our right to give up whenever we get ready.

“Until it’s do or die you not really in it.” – Inky Johnson

Our ancestors only had two options – do or die. We’re not really in it – our goals, our future, our business, our marriages, etc. – until it is do or die. Inky says we have to approach it with everything we’ve got. That’s how you stay ready. “It’s the spirit of no option and no choice.” It’s simply do or die. There’s no retreating and no running.

“There’s no special talent. It’s grit.” – Inky Johnson

Not only is our lineage counting on us, but our ancestors are counting on us. “At what point do we honor the sacrifices of those who came before us?” Inky questioned. So many people have made sacrifices that we might be here. So many people didn’t give up on picking cotton that we might be here. They persevered. They prayed. And that perseverance and prayer made it possible for some of us to even be alive. So when do we honor them? When do our actions and decisions line up with the opportunity we’ve been given? It’s time that we take the platoon and run the next phase of the race before passing it on to our lineage.

“People burnout because they forget what they represent. The lineage.” – Inky Johnson

There’s so much more than I could say from Inky’s talk, but there were three other speakers. But I do want to end with a few notable quotes:

“If you’re foolish enough to have that type of faith God will put you right in front of it.”

“As long as you make sure someone else’s life is okay God will always make sure your life is okay.”

“Adversity makes some people break and some people break records.”

“Make the decision that you won’t be denied and you become dangerous.”

Know Where You Are

Jeremy Anderson took the stage next. He said that he didn’t ask for the opportunity to tour with Eric Thomas and Associates. Yet, at the same time he did. As he began to put the work in and do a little self reflection the call came to him. He asked for the opportunity with work and consistency.

“In order to get to the next level you have to know where you are.” – Jeremy Anderson

Jeremy says that sometimes the way we view ourselves is not the truth. He tells a story of how he thought someone had photoshopped a picture of him. In the picture his hairline was so far receded someone must have doctored it. His wife lovingly let him know the photo was legit. He decided it was time to go bald. Lol.

Our image of ourselves is sometimes not the reality. This can actually work both ways. Jeremy focused on how we are blinded to our shortcomings. There’s also a such thing as being blinded to our gifts as well. We must recognize who we really are and where we really are so that we can figure out where to go next and how to get there.

“Always grateful, but never settling.” – Jeremy Anderson

In order to grow we have to pull up all the negative stuff. Similar to gardening. We have to get rid of the weeds. But if you can’t even acknowledge the weeds in your own life and being you’re not going to be able to pull them up.

Jeremy says not to ask why the grass is greener on the other side. Ask what they are doing to make it greener. Are they fertilizing it? Watering it? Perhaps it’s even fake. You don’t need to know that the grass is greener. You need to know how to get your grass greener. You need to know what they’re doing.

At the same time focus on yourself. Be the best that you can be. Do what it takes to have greener grass. And be willing to look crazy for a while. Sometimes when you start pulling up the negative stuff you look and feel a mess. But that is only temporary. Being willing to temporarily look crazy will set you up for success.

“Be desperate to win and desperate to grow.” – Jeremy Anderson

How do you let go of the dead stuff? Tell yourself “I don’t do that no more.” Stop saying “I’m trying to quit.” Say you don’t do it anymore even if you’re still struggling with it. Jeremy used to do drugs and drink a lot. When he was quitting and people would ask him if he wanted to smoke a blunt he would reply, “I don’t do that no more.” Even though he really want to go smoke a blunt! And it worked for him. I forget the exact number but he’s been clean for years.

Some additional quotes from Jeremy:

“I told my wife I know how our story ends. It ends with us being rich…It ends with us being lenders and not borrowers.”

“Shaq’s feet look like they’re possessed by concrete. Are you willing to break your feet?”

“One day at a time. Today I choose to win.”

“People don’t buy dreams. They buy reality.”

“Don’t put too much power in your DNA. (As in my mom this or my dad this). Your DNA doesn’t determine your destiny. Your decisions do.”

Fear is a handicap

David Shands, CEO of Sleep Is 4 Suckers graced the stage next. I won’t spend a lot of time here because his talk was mostly business related and I don’t cover business training on my blog. The biggest takeaway for me even for non business owners was that fear is a handicap. He said it is a sickness. David brought up a website of phobias. I’m pretty sure that it was The Phobia List. There are hundreds of phobias on this website. There’s a fear of dancing (Chorophobia), a fear of responsibility, which explains some things, (Hypengyophobia) and a fear of telephones (Telephonophobia), to name a few.

When you look at it like that fear does really seem like a disability. If you have a phobia of responsibility can you see how that would disable you from living a life you love? So we have to be willing to get over our fears. He didn’t really go into details of the how, but identifying the problem is half the battle. According to David you have a disability. What is it? What fears are preventing you from staying ready?

Make it Happen

And finally the man of the hour, Eric Thomas himself hit the stage. His main message was we have to MAKE things happen. “Get ready to prepare to make oneself ready.” This means being proactive and not reactive. Eric says to measure how reactive you are in life vs. how proactive you are. He also says if you want to be a millionaire write down everything that millionaires do and do those things. That was an example, but essentially he’s saying that to be proactive and not reactive you find out what you need to do to be who you want to be and you do those things.

“Stop sitting by the phone.” – Eric Thomas

Make means to cause something to exist or come about that didn’t exist before. I am so of the philosophy of making things happen (as opposed to “manifesting” things). ET advises that we don’t need anything else than what we currently have to make it happen. You (and I) have enough right not.

“As soon as your brain can think it you are equipped to bring it about.” – Eric Thomas

Make the list of what you need to do and study that list. To get ready to stay ready for an opportunity starts with you. “Make sure every time you get the rock (ball) you score.” Operate at your highest level. Judge yourself before you judge (assess the people you’re around).

One thing ET said was that we have to take advantage of our present opportunities. We have to “knock them out right now”. Not just capitalizing on the opportunity, but being the person who can handle the opportunity. He tells how he almost got divorced. Not because he was cheating but because he didn’t know how to be a husband and his wife was ready to walk out. So many people want to change their decisions when things aren’t going right but you need to learn how to embrace your current opportunities. Not just trade them out for another. He said that some people are praying for a spouse (ME!) and a career while others have those opportunities but don’t fully embrace them.

If the current situation you’re in doesn’t work out it doesn’t relieve you of your need to grow. “If you break up with her you still have to be a husband.” So you might as well knock it out now. You might as well learn how to be a husband right now in this current marriage. No matter what you will still have to grow into a husband or a wife or a parent or a business owner or a more joyful person or a more disciplined person, etc. Running away doesn’t change it. Change changes it.

Some closing quotes from ET:

“You are no deeper than the people you run with.”

“Most of you can’t stay ready because you’re focused on the past. Let that go.”

Related Articles:

Tony Robbins’ How to Unleash the Power Within

Jack Canfield’s Getting to Great in One Day

Mary Morrissey’s DreamBuilder

Tony Gaskins Jr.’s Live A Balanced Life

Lessons From the Law of Attraction with Esther Hicks

Breakthroughs Out Loud From Lisa Nichols & Team


July Daily Disciplines: Day 9 Check-In

Today is Day 9 of my  31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge.

I missed yesterday’s check-in. My mom’s brother passed away and I went to her house to be with her so I didn’t get to my nightly check-in. I did fairly well in all areas except eating. I sound like a broken record. Just wait until you read today’s check-in. SMH.

Here’s my Day 9 Check-In:

Read the bible everyday – ☑ I read Malachi and a bit from Matthew today.

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ❌ I haven’t drank much water today. I’ve probably had about half of my goal intake. There’s still a chance that I finish on track.

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog I published earlier today titled “Don’t Judge Death.”

Eat healthy – ❌ Negative! I had Taco Bell for lunch / dinner. I only had two meals today. I went to Stay Ready by Eric Thomas and Associates and it was right over lunch time.

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – N/A

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – ☑

 


Don’t Judge Death

I previously recorded a podcast episode titled “Don’t Judge Life“. This is actually one of my top downloaded episodes. We have a tendency to judge everything that happens to us as either good or bad, right or wrong. And we carry those labels around with us which often times prevents us from fully showing up to life.

My uncle Sidney passed away yesterday unexpectedly. He died of a stroke. He would be turning 57 this Saturday 7/15 which is the day he will be laid to rest.

Lately I’ve been thinking about how we (I) tend to judge death. We think that life has cheated some people or that death stole them right beneath our eyes. Death steals lives in the middle of the night or at the break of dawn. It snatches them in their sleep or while they’re driving in their cars. Death is a sneaky little thing that many despise and fear.

But what if death like life is not to be judged? Who’s to say when is the right or wrong time for someone to leave this earth? We all have to go sometime. Who am I to decide when life has cheated someone or when life gave favor to another?

I like to think that death is like a remembrance, similar to a dream on the tip of consciousness. When the dream finally comes into awareness there’s a, “Oh yeah, that’s what it was. I remember now.” I think when you die you come into remembrance of who you are and where you come from. You remember that you were first a spirit and you are now simply returning home.  I think any agreements or assignments you took on before coming to earth are remembered. And I don’t think the soul is surprised by death, only the body is.

I also like to think that when people die they were ready. They had completed all their tasks and assignments. It was simply their time to go. Although 57 seems like a young age to die my uncle was blessed in that he raised all his children into adulthood. 9 in total (I think). He had the chance to meet and play with his grandchildren. He was surrounded by the love of his family. He was so blessed in those 57 years.

My human mind doesn’t understand death. It doesn’t understand the afterlife. How can I judge that which I know nothing about? When I hear about a tragic death, young or old in the future, I will refrain from judging it. I will choose to believe that that person was blessed beyond measure, they gave everything inside of them to give, and their steps were ordered by the Lord. I choose to believe that their soul is at peace, not regretting or feeling cheated of anything.

Even as I write this I still hope and pray I’ll live to a ripe old age. I think as we remove our judgments of death it gives more meaning to life. Sometimes death teaches us what life is. Everyday that we are alive we know that there is still more for us to experience and do and give. And we know that there’s a deadline. We don’t know when it is, but we know enough to try to make the best of life.

My uncle has passed but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Of course those he has left behind will mourn for him and miss him. But in due time we will all meet again just as he has gone on to be with his parents and younger brother. I can only imagine what a blessing that is for him. He’s reunited with loved ones he hasn’t seen in decades.

Uncle Sidney loved big and always had a big smile on his face. He had such a jolly personality. I had recorded Facebook live videos on practicing gratitude and he saw them and called me. That was the last time I talked to him. That was such a funny call, but I was glad to hear from him. He said he was going to try out the 5 Day gratitude challenge!

I’m grateful that we had that chance to connect that day. I’m grateful that he was and is my uncle. I know he loved me and his other nieces and nephews. I’m grateful that his life was full of love.

Rest in peace, uncle Sidney. Love you and always will! <3

 


5 Truths When You Find Yourself Wondering What You’re Going to Do

I mentioned yesterday that one of my tenants abruptly decided to move out. She actually owns the house next door. It caught of fire so she needed somewhere else to live while she repaired the damage to her home. I’m guessing she didn’t have homeowners’ insurance. Any who, she wasn’t paying the property taxes on her house so she was on the verge of losing it. She couldn’t afford to pay the rent on my property and make payments to the county to save her house so she moved out.

So now I’m tasked with getting the house ready for the next tenant. Oh how I wish she stayed! All I can think of is the ca-billion things I have to do and how expensive it is going to be. It’s already been an expensive 12 months with this house. The roof had to be replaced at an expense of $8,000. There was a termite problem in January that ran $1,400.  Add to that a $600 plumbing issue just a few months ago and now no rental income. It feels so heavy. I wondered if I could handle this. “What am I going to do and how?” I’ve fretted.

Do you ever wonder what you’re going to do and how in the world you’re going to be able to do whatever it is?

I knew I would be going to the house bright and early this morning. Last night I prayed, “God, please let this go as smoothly as possible.” Don’t we all wish things could just go as smoothly as possible?! But they don’t. Here’s 5 truths I’ve come to learn when I find myself wondering how I’m going to tackle what I need to tackle.

1. When you care you care

I’m fretting over what to do and how to do it. I’m getting up way too early on a Saturday and spending the day working on the house. To the store to get batteries for the thermostat. Back to the store to get an air filter and putty to plug the hundreds of hole the tenant put in the wall. Replace the fire extinguisher the tenant used because she “was in the backyard barbecuing”. Just running around with still more to do. A lot more.

What I know is that I care. Everybody doesn’t care. I believe the next person who calls my house their home deserves a safe, comfortable, and functional home.  The stress and pressure I put on myself is simply because I care. Because I care I do the best that I can. I feel good about myself for being someone who cares. I find meaning and satisfaction knowing that I’m providing a livable space for someone to dwell. I’m no slum lord. I believe in what I’m doing even though it feels overwhelming at time.

So though something may feel overwhelming to you it’s an indication of what matters to you. Caring is not a bad thing. It’s a mark of distinction and character.

2. You always know what to do

Now I don’t always know what to do, but if I scratch my head long enough I will know what to do. Even those times when I have no idea what to do or how to do it I always figure it. In part because I care. See #1. When you care you figure it out. I don’t have to carry the weight of the uncertainty on my shoulders because I care enough to handle my business. I always know what to do. I’m smart. I’m resilient. I’m a go getter and a goal getter. And I’m a child of God. He goes before me and orders my steps.

The answers to my questions suddenly become clear when I accept this truth.

“What am I going to do?”

Figure it out.

“How am I going to do it?”

With God.

I trust myself to figure it out and I trust God to lead the way.

I can say the same for you. You always know what to do. You always have. I’m pretty sure of it. Even when you don’t know you will find out.

3. If it’s easy it’s not worth it

As much as I wish this would just go smoothly it can’t. It is par for the course that tenants will move out. It is par for the course that painting and repairs will have to be done when they do move out. It’s par for the course that there will be no rental income at times. But it’s also a reason why everybody can’t do this. It’s the reason why some start and then get out. This is tough, stressful, expensive business. But it’s also something I enjoy and something I believe in. Real estate has made more millionaires in this country than any other avenue. If I stick with this long enough I will be a millionaire (mark my words!).

So no it’s not easy, but I believe it’s worth it. Things that are easy are rarely worth it. You don’t really want to invest your time and energy in easy things. You won’t go for the things that will make something out of you and make something (as in millions) for you.

4. Breakdowns create breakthroughs

My goal is to build my real estate portfolio. I want to get into multi-unit properties. If I want more properties it’s going to be more expenses, more roof repairs, more last minute move outs, just more of everything. I’ve learned a lot in the last 12 months with all the breakdowns. These learnings I know are building me up. They are preparing me for the more I say I want. I am that much more able to make better decisions when it comes to investing because of my experiences. I’m being prepared for my breakthrough into multifamily homes.

What seems like a breakdown is really the setting up for a breakthrough. What seems like “I don’t know what to do” is really “I’m about to slay the dragon and reach for a bigger one.” Being broken down is a test. It’s a test that everyone has to take. It’s the test that separates the people who aren’t willing to roll up their sleeves and fight for what they want and those who do. I’m a fighter. I fight for what I want. I fight through the breakdown so that I am better prepared for the breakthrough.

5. You’re made of something

Whenever I’m faced with an overwhelming situation and I conquer it I learn more about who I am. I learn what I’m made of. And I can tell you unequivocally that I am made of something. I feel proud of myself for handling those things which I do not even believe I could handle. I’m proud of myself for not giving up and doing the dang thang. And when I conquer the unconquerable I learn to believe in me even more. I learn to believe in God even more. I know I am well able.

When you find yourself up against the wall remember who you are. Allow the experience to test you, stretch you, and grow you. Know that it is not for nothing. You will come out the other side better than ever. You will have more confidence, more faith, and more ability to live in your breakthrough.

Not knowing what you’re going to do or how you’re going to do it is a great place to be. You never come out the other side of it without knowing a little bit more of who you are, what you’re capable of, or what you really deserve.


July Daily Disciplines: Day 7 Check-In

Today is Day 7 of my  31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge.

I did not check in yesterday but I did handle my business. I read the bible (Exodus and Romans). I walked the dog. I got my water intake. My eating was good. I got my blog out (which I actually wrote on Tuesday). I exercised. And I had a two hour meeting for the usher ministry at church. I actually wasn’t sure if I would make it, but I did. That’s why there was no check in post. I came home, exercised, jumped in the shower and went to bed!

Here’s my Day 7 Check-In:

Read the bible everyday – ☑ Still reading Exodus.

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ☑

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog I published earlier today titled “How to Be A Dope Chick“.

Eat healthy – ❌ Negative! I had sugar cookies and M&Ms. Now you guys know my weakness. Sweets! But that’s okay. Eating healthy is the area of greatest opportunity for growth. I’m not of a challenge.

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – N/A

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – N/A


How to Be A Dope Chick

I was talking to a friend and he said, “You are so dope.”

I said, “What?! You just now figuring that out?”

Lol. Okay. I didn’t say that. What I actually said was, “I’m just doing what I believe in.”

He thinks I’m “dope” because I’m headed to Colombia on a mission trip with my church this fall (God willing).

He thinks I’m dope because I went to Haiti last year on a mission trip.

He thinks I’m dope because I own rental property and I’m building this blog and podcasting.

In essence, he thinks I’m dope because I pursue what I believe in.

If you want to be a dope chick you have to first know what you believe in. What do you believe in?

Get out of the habit of not knowing anything. You don’t know what you want. You don’t know what you believe in. You don’t know what you care about. You don’t know what you want to eat. You don’t know where you want to go. Start knowing. Dope chicks know what they want.

The second thing you can do if you want to be a dope chick is to pursue those things that you believe in. How many people have an idea or a thought that they sit on? Those people look at the lives of dope chicks and think their lives are so glamorous. No we’re just constantly in pursuit of what we believe in. So that looks like always going somewhere or doing something interesting. In actuality it is always pursuing something we believe in.

You want to be a dope chick? Never stop pursing what you believe. I’ve always been someone who has tried a million different things. They haven’t always worked out. I wasn’t always chosen, but I sure do know how to take action. So many people are sitting around bored to death. They have mindless conversations over text. They’re watching mindless TV. They’re browsing mindless social media trends and “hot topics.” Dope chicks are not mindless. They’re mindful about what they’re doing and what they’re creating in their lives.

Dope chicks don’t tell themselves no. I’m not afraid to throw my hat in the ring for things that interest me.  I was an analyst and I applied to be a director at another company. That takes guts! Analyst to Director is a big move. They called me in for an interview too. I didn’t get the job, but it’s not because I told myself no. They told me no. When you don’t pursue your goals you’re essentially telling yourself no. Don’t do that! Believe in yourself enough to tell yourself yes.

Dope chicks find other avenues. Initially my church did not choose me to go to Colombia on the mission trip. What did I do? I reached out to the organization the church was partnering with directly. Two people from my church ended up dropping out so I am going with the church. But if they hadn’t dropped out I was already working on another avenue to be a part of what I believe in. When they truly believe in something dope chicks don’t just settle for no. Why should I not participate in something I believe in? Of course sometimes God says no. A lot of times people give up too soon. They tell themselves no. Dope chicks persist.

Dope chicks take risks. Investing in real estate or stocks or a business is risky. Dope chicks do it anyway. A little risk never hurt anybody. A lot of risk has made millionaires. Dope chicks live by this.

Dope chicks have fun. Whether it is hopping on an airplane to some exotic location or kicking back with their family or friends dope chicks know when and how to have a good time.

Dope chicks stick to their morals. They are woman of character, faith, and poise. Dope chicks don’t do dope. They don’t comprise who they are or their beliefs. They are who they say they are. A lot of my friends think I’m a goody two shoes. They’re right. I am. I do have conservative opinions on what’s right and what’s not so right. As much as possible I veer to the right thing.

To recap, if you want to be a dope chick:

  1. Find something you believe in. Find something you want to be a part of. Find something you want to be a part of you.
  2. Pursue what you believe in.
  3. Don’t take no for an answer when you really believe in a thing.
  4. Don’t tell yourself no. Let them tell you no.
  5. Take risks.
  6. Have fun.
  7. Stay true to who you are and what you believe.