July Daily Disciplines: Day 13 Check-In

Today is Day 13 of my  31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge.

My uncle Sidney passed away this past Saturday. I was thinking about him while I was walking my dog today. I was thinking how I wish I had one more chance to see him alive and to hug him. I was thinking how I’m looking forward to going to Kentucky this weekend to pay my final respects and lay him to rest. And then for some reason I looked up at the sky and saw a rainbow.  The day he passed my mom called me crying to tell me the unfortunate news. I jumped in my car to go be with her. On my way there I saw a rainbow.  I don’t know what it means if anything but I feel a bit comforted.

Here’s my Day 13 Check-In:

Read the bible everyday – ☑ I continued in Matthew today.

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ☑

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog I published earlier today titled “What Practicing Discipline Taught Me About Self Care.”

Eat healthy –  ⚠️ Better than yesterday!

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – ☑

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – N/A


What Practicing Discipline Taught Me About Self Care

If you’ve been following the blog you may know that I’ve endeavored to practice daily discipline in some key areas of my life for the month of July.  Well, being disciplined in reading the bible, attending church, walking the dog, blogging and exercising has taught me a thing or two about self care.

I’ll be honest. I’ve never really paid much mind to the concept of self care and burnout. A lot of people talk about it, but it has never resonated with me. I’m single. I have no children. I have all the time in the world to take care of myself and I do (believe me).

But the past two weeks of taking up the notch on discipline has given me new perspective. There are some days where I literary have no time to sit down and breathe. It’s work, then church, then walk the dog, then read the bible. It’s just go, go, go. Usually I have a lot of time to kick back and unwind at the end of the day.  Not now.

I can see how someone with kids and a spouse would have a challenge keeping it all together without burning out. And then add to it all the things we’re taught, things I convey such as, “Don’t let your feelings dictate your actions. Let your goals dictate your actions.” Yet, sometimes we do need to let how we feel determine what we do next. And we should be able to do that without feeling guilty.

Or how about, “I’ll sleep when I die.” I went to Stay Ready by Eric Thomas & Associates. One of the speakers was the founder of Sleep is 4 Suckers. He said he wore a Sleep is 4 Suckers shirt to a retail store and a woman working there said she didn’t agree with it. His attitude was, “Of course she didn’t. She was working in retail.” But I agree with her. Sleep is not for suckers. Sleep is for me! But we’re taught not to rest. It’s so ingrained in us that we think taking a break is detrimental to our futures. We’re afraid of just unplugging and unwinding. We’re afraid of sleeping.

There are some nights I don’t want to do all that I’ve set out to do. For the most part I’ve been pretty disciplined (minus my eating…yikes!) But I don’t want to be. I want to end the night early and have some me time. I don’t want to read the bible. I don’t want to walk the dog or exercise.  But if I haven’t read the bible I have to read it, because if I already made time to walk the dog I have time to study the word. Put God first. And if I haven’t exercised I can’t slack on that. My eating is hit or miss so I better be 100% on point with at least exercising.

It’s the guilt trip.

If I as someone who has no responsibility to anyone except for me (and my dog and I just give her a chew toy to keep her busy) risks burnout I can only imagine what someone who has much more at stake has to deal with.

So what I’ve learned and what I want to tell you is:

** Sometimes it’s okay and dare I say even necessary to choose your feelings over your goals. Sometimes choosing your feelings better enable you to accomplish your goals. Don’t be afraid to skip a workout or ditch the walk around the neighborhood with the dog simply because “You don’t feel like it.” You don’t need a better answer than that. The key obviously is moderation. You can’t never feel like it, but if you’re on your A game most of the time taking a break is okay. In fact, it’s critical.

** We’ve got to stop guilting ourselves. Nobody’s perfect. You deserve grace. I deserve grace. But as long as we put so much pressure and guilt on ourselves to get it right every time we are bound to burn ourselves out.

** It’s okay to sleep. Go to bed!

I’ve learned that self care is about being disciplined in giving you what you need. It’s choosing you over all else because you are the you that goes with you everywhere. And if you are burnt out, defeated, lethargic, depressed, unhappy, uninspired, clutter-minded, out of focus and in general a mess you will make a mess of your life and the very things and people you’re committed to giving your best.

It’s cliche, but you cannot pour from an empty cup. Being disciplined, although very important in creating your best life, empties your cup. Chasing dreams and goals empties your cup. Church obligations can empty your cup. Family, friends, and spouses empty your cup.

Self care fills it back up again. Stretch yourself to achieve your goals. Stretch yourself to be disciplined. But know that your cup will run low. Fill your cup high and fill it often.


July Daily Disciplines: Day 11 Check-In

Today is Day 11 of my  31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge.

Here’s my Day 11 Check-In:

Read the bible everyday – ☑ I continued in Matthew today.

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ☑ Yay! Rebounded on the water intake.

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog/podcast I published earlier today titled “How to Rediscover Who You Really Are.”

Eat healthy – ☑ Eating pretty good today. Not low carb, because I had a panini (half for lunch and half for dinner).

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – ☑ I almost didn’t. Today was really a struggle to accomplish all I committed to doing, but I pushed through. That’s what discipline is about. Pushing through when you don’t feel like it.

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – N/A


July Daily Disciplines: Day 7 Check-In

Today is Day 7 of my  31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge.

I did not check in yesterday but I did handle my business. I read the bible (Exodus and Romans). I walked the dog. I got my water intake. My eating was good. I got my blog out (which I actually wrote on Tuesday). I exercised. And I had a two hour meeting for the usher ministry at church. I actually wasn’t sure if I would make it, but I did. That’s why there was no check in post. I came home, exercised, jumped in the shower and went to bed!

Here’s my Day 7 Check-In:

Read the bible everyday – ☑ Still reading Exodus.

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ☑

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog I published earlier today titled “How to Be A Dope Chick“.

Eat healthy – ❌ Negative! I had sugar cookies and M&Ms. Now you guys know my weakness. Sweets! But that’s okay. Eating healthy is the area of greatest opportunity for growth. I’m not of a challenge.

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – N/A

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – N/A


20 Quotes on Self Discipline That Will Help You Achieve Big Goals

I am on day 5 of my 31 Day Daily Discipline Challenge. It’s not hard, but it’s not necessarily easy either. I have to be much more mindful about scheduling my time. As someone with no kids or husband my days are generally free flowing. But when I’ve taken it on to exercise, blog, walk the dog and attend church services at a specific cadence I have to be planned. At the same time one of my tenants abruptly cancelled her lease so I’m in the midst of doing a make ready for the next tenant. Which complicates things a bit. I could use that as an excuse to not follow through, but I won’t because that’s the whole point of discipline. Sticking with it no matter what.

Last night I did not want to exercise! But I did it anyway. Why? Because it was Tuesday and that’s the schedule I laid out. Being disciplined means doing what you need to do regardless of how you feel. It means stay committed no matter how busy, sleepy, or tired you are. It means staying on target even when unanticipated things pop up.

To help you get in the spirit of discipline I’ve rounded up these quotes to inspire you.

“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” – Jim Rohn

 

“Excellence is a journey. Discipline is the vehicle.” – Unknown

 

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.” – Jim Rohn

 

“It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through.” – Zig Ziglar

 

“To enjoy good health, to bring true happiness to one’s family, to bring peace to all, one must first discipline and control one’s own mind. If a man can control his mind he can find the way to Enlightenment, and all wisdom and virtue will naturally come to him.” – Buddha

 

“Without hard work and discipline it is difficult to be a top professional.” – Jahangir Khan

 

“Winners embrace hard work. They love the discipline of it, the trade-off they’re making to win. Losers, on the other hand, see it as punishment. And that’s the difference.” – Lou Holtz

 

“Most people want to avoid pain, and discipline is usually painful.” – John C. Maxwell

 

“The discipline you learn and character you build from setting and achieving a goal can be more valuable than the achievement of the goal itself.” – Bo Bennett

 

“Seek freedom and become captive of your desires. Seek discipline and find your liberty.” – Frank Herbert

 

“Live your life while you have it. Life is a splendid gift. There is nothing small in it. Far the greatest things grow by God’s law out of the smallest. But to live your life, you must discipline it.” -Florence Nightingale

 

“You need three things to win: discipline, hard work and, before everything maybe, commitment. No one will make it without those three. Sport teaches you that.” – Haile Gebrselassie

 

“It’s easy to have faith in yourself and have discipline when you’re a winner, when you’re number one. What you got to have is faith and discipline when you’re not a winner.” -Vince Lombardi

 

“We all naturally want to become successful… we also want to take shortcuts. And it’s easy to do so, but you can never take away the effort of hard work and discipline and sacrifice.” – Apolo Ohno

 

“In terms of instilling the values of mental toughness and work ethic, discipline is the gift that keeps on giving.” – William Baldwin

 

“I believe that through knowledge and discipline, financial peace is possible for all of us.” – Dave Ramsey

 

“Sacrifice, discipline and prayer are essential. We gain strength through God’s word. We receive grace from the sacrament. And when we fumble due to sin – and it’s gonna happen – confession puts us back on the field.” – Lou Holtz

 

“It is one thing to praise discipline, and another to submit to it.” – Miguel de Cervantes

 

“Talent without discipline is like an octopus on roller skates. There’s plenty of movement, but you never know if it’s going to be forward, backwards, or sideways.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

 

“If you discipline yourself today, you’ll enjoy your life more tomorrow.” Vicki Hitzges


July Daily Disciplines: Day 4 Check-In

Happy 4th of July! Hope you enjoyed your day. Spoiler alert! I cheated on my eating. 😬 Today is Day 4 of my  31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge

Here’s my Day 4 Check-In:

Read the bible everyday – ☑ Still reading Exodus.

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ☑

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog I published earlier today titled How to Know If You’re Settling.

Eat healthy – ❌ Okay breakfast was great. Lunch not so much. I had a half a burger and sweet potato fries. I also had ice cream. I didn’t have dinner. I wasn’t hungry after all that, but I did have a protein shake following my workout.

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – ☑

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – N/A (It’s Tuesday)

 

 


July Daily Disciplines: Day 3 Check-In

Today is Day 3 of my  31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge

Here’s my Day 3 Check-In

Read the bible everyday – ☑ I’m currently reading Exodus. My bible is a coloring bible so I also colored today! “God listened. God remembered. God saw. God understood”!

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ☑

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog I published earlier today titled Stay Close to Your Dreams.

Eat healthy – ☑ I had eggs and turkey bacon for breakfast. I had grilled chicken wings (5) with no sides for lunch and dinner. I snacked on a protein bar, an apple, and an oatmeal bar. The low carbs was getting to me so I added the oatmeal bar. I can’t do what I set out to do if I have the low carb flu. I am now enjoying a protein shake as I just finished a bonus workout.

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – ☑ I got a bonus workout in today.

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – ☑ I listened to Monday night bible study live on Facebook.


July Daily Disciplines: Day 2 Check-In

This is Day 2 (July 2nd, 2017) of my 31 Day Challenge to be disciplined in key areas of my life. Read the background details here: Daily Discipline 31 Day Challenge

Here’s my Day 2 Check-In

Read the bible everyday – ☑

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ☑ Just made it!

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog I published earlier today about Thinking Strong & Never Giving Up. Not only did I write this blog post I also wrote a blog post for my second blog hopefaithandprayer.com.

Eat healthy – ☑ My eating was on fleek today! I had eggs and turkey bacon for breakfast. I had a salad for lunch and dinner. I stopped after church to get a salad from Salad Extraveganza. It was pretty big so I ended up eating half for lunch and the other half for dinner. I snacked on a protein bar, an apple, and cashews. And then I had a protein drink after my bonus workout.

Exercise on Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday – ☑ So, today is Sunday and I got in a bonus workout. My goal is really to workout as many times as possible, but bare minimal on Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday each week.

Participate in Church Services Sunday/Monday/Wednesday – ☑ See blog post above recapping today’s message!

Yay! Day 2 went extremely well. I am definitely off to a great start so far. Obviously, there are no results to speak of as of it. But that’s why this is so important. We have to be disciplined even when we don’t see results. Even when it’s too early to see results. If we can’t be disciplined without results we’ll never get to the results. A part of the reason people give up too soon is because they didn’t see results. If you’re too focused on results it can diminish your morale particularly in the short term. And then we won’t “feel” like do what we should be doing. There’s no excitement or hope. Discipline helps you stay the course despite short term setback or lack of progress.  Discipline is about doing what needs to be done because it aligns with your goals regardless of how you feel.

Are you participating with me? How was your Day 2?


July Daily Disciplines: Day 1

 

Happy July!

We’re officially halfway through the year. Life goes by so darn fast, doesn’t it?!

Well I’ve been thinking about how I want to grow at this point in my life. There are two key areas that I want to see my own personal growth in.

  1. Spiritual Health: I’ve definitely grown spiritually over the last few years. My walk with Christ has strengthened. My love for His word, His church, and His people has grown tremendously. Yet, I feel that I’ve reached a bit of a plateau. I want to know God more deeply and discern His voice more clearly. There are also some things that I am believing Him for (namely a husband and some kids) so I want to grow in my faith.
  2. Physical Health: I’ve been out of control in my physical health basically for a year. I know! SMH. 🤦 I had a few back to back trips last year (Haiti, Arizona, Dallas, Washington, DC, back to Dallas). For some reason traveling is synonymous with eat what you want for me. And then there was Thanksgiving and Christmas. Then two trips to San Diego this year. A trip to New Jersey. My sister’s graduation. And then Mexico. Basically a lot of excuses to eat like a slob, which I took full advantage of. Now I am gassy. I have GERD for the first time in my life. I’m constantly belching. (TMI I know). I went to the doctor and he looks at my chart. “You’ve gained weight. You need to lose it.” So, a girl has got to get her life back.

I also want to see my blog and business grow. I completed the first draft of my upcoming book which I’m really excited about. Now that the book is complete I have the time to focus on my blog again. I want to give it a good jump start.

So in thinking of the ways I want to grow (particularly this month) I have been thinking about the daily disciplines I want to adopt to support my growth. Here’s my plan of action:

Daily Disciplines:

  1. Read the bible everyday. I talk to God nearly everyday, but I don’t open His book everyday. I have to spend more time with Him if I want to grow in Him.
  2. Walk the dog at least once a day everyday. I don’t walk my dog everyday. A lot of times I simply open the back door for her. This will be good for me and her. She actually gained 3lbs since last year!!! And that kind of weight gain on a dog is no bueno. 😞Plus, she likes going for walks.
  3. Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday. Again, not a habit I currently have. Some days are better than others.
  4. Eat healthy. Minimize carbs. I haven’t defined any hard and fast rules here in terms of cheat days. Maybe I should (I already cheated today). But in general, as much as possible I will stick to meat and veggies. No bread, pasta, potatoes, sweets, grains or beans.
  5. Blog once a day.

I will definitely be giving myself some grace. I realize I could skip a day here or there. The blogging once a day in particular scares me. But that’s what daily discipline is all about.

Weekly Disciplines:

  1. Exercise at least 3 times a week. My days are Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Saturdays. This will be either in the comfort of my home or at ILoveKickBoxing.com. It helps to decide which days I’ll be exercising so that I don’t have contemplate whether I should work out today or tomorrow and then working out on neither.
  2. Participate in church services Mondays, Wednesdays, and Sundays. My church has Monday night bible study, Wednesday night mid-week service and of course Sunday services. Now, I said participate in. I might not necessarily go to the church three times a week. I will watch services live online when I do not attend in person. I’ll attend in person on Sundays for sure and perhaps one other service per week.

And that is my plan to grow my health, my spirituality, and my blog everyday for the month of July. Is there something you want to grow in your life this month? What daily disciplines (and weekly disciplines) do you need to adopt to facilitate your growth?

Join Me!

I’ve said before I believe the small day to day actions we take consistently will have the biggest impact on our life. Join me on this 31 Day personal challenge if you want to develop habits and daily disciplines that can transform your life. If you want to participate simply follow along here on the blog or on Facebook. Feel free to check in daily by emailing me, commenting on the blog post, or commenting on my social media.

My Day 1 Check – In

Read the bible everyday – ☑

Walk the dog at least once a day – ☑

Drink at least 64 ounces of water everyday – ⚠️ Not quite there yet but will be by end of day!

Blog once a day – ☑ Check out the blog I published earlier today about How to Be A Successful Black Woman.

Eat healthy – ❌ I started out pretty decent, but then I saw a Guava Cheesecake. Exotic flavors are my weakness.

Exercise on Saturday – ☑

Here’s a Day 1 picture of my current physique. I’ll plan to take a picture everyday so I can watch my body change. Again, will give myself grace if I miss a day here or there.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Alright, Day 1 went fairly well. See you tomorrow!