FCTB020: The Power of Coaches, Mentors, and Guides + How to Coach Yourself

I am a big proponent of coaching and have always seen the positive benefits of having a professional coach, or even a mentor or guide whether it is with business, love, or life in general. I am a personal testament to this as I have seen from both sides of it – being a coach myself and having been under the care of mentors and guides too.

That is the reason I have decided to share this episode that defines coaching and identifies the different benefits of having a coach, mentor, or guide. I also provided methods to coach yourself to success should you feel like you’re not ready yet to invest in getting a coach and mentoring program yet.

Some of the things I shared on this episode are:

  • Definitions of coaching that I adhere to (2:56).

Coaching is about creating an action plan that moves you forward, from where you are to where you want to be. – James Himm Mitchell

Coaching is all about having someone believe in you and encourage you, about getting valuable feedback, about seeing things from new perspectives and setting your sights on new horizons.

Life Coaching is your opportunity to take your life from good to great.

  • The concept of accountability through coaching which results to significantly increasing the likelihood to accomplishing tasks or goals (3:33), and why it’s a better idea to have a professional coach instead of a family member or a friend as your accountability partner (5:47).
  • The advantage of being able to think out loud and have someone listen and brainstorm with you if you feel there are issues or problems that you’re not confident to deal with by yourself (7:10).
  • The significance of having a coach who can be objective when you’re not, and can serve as a powerful reminder of your path and goals in case the vision gets blurry (12:12).
  • The ability to stay on track (and if you get off track, back on track), prioritize tasks an14:45).
  • The insights and assistance coaches provide to break down problems, issues, and tasks into small actionable chunks, connecting the dots, and finding solutions (19:56).
  • The assurance of having someone to assist you to address your thoughts, insecurities, and lack of knowledge (23:02).

I have listed potential coaches in a blog post I wrote a couple of months back. If the podcast has been helpful to you and you would like to work with me as a coach, you can shoot me an email at charlene@fromcaterpillarstobutterflies.com and I’ll get back to you so we can discuss your goals, challenges and pain points, and see how we can work together.

Alternately, if you feel like you’d want to try if you can coach yourself to success, I also have devised techniques so you can kickstart your way to self-improvement. Some of the methods that I have mentioned in past blog posts and podcasts are identified below such as:

  • Maintaining a daily goals journal (24:55)
  • Keeping a Life Balance Wheel (25:50)
  • Write a personal IT (Inspiring and Transformational) statement or manifesto (26:16)
  • The RAMP method (Reflect, Avoid, Move, Persist) (26:33).
  • Digging deeper (as I’ve contributed in Classy Career Girl) (27:27).
  • Thinking that there’s always something you can be doing (as provided in this podcast episode) (28:23).

Related Links:

 The Ropes to Skip and the Ropes to Know by R. Richard Ritti | Amazon

Three Feet from Gold by Sharon L. Lechter CPA, Greg S. Reid, and Mark Victor Hansen | Amazon

Creating Balance and Setting Boundaries | From Caterpillars to Butterflies

How to Get Unstuck | From Caterpillars to Butterflies

How to Get Ish Done When You’re Feeling Unmotivated | From Caterpillars to

5 Ways to Finish Strong | From Caterpillars to Butterflies

Ways We Sabotage Ourselves | From Caterpillars to Butterflies

21 Black Women Coaches to Help You Transform Your Life, Business, Family and Spirituality | From Caterpillars to Butterflies

4 Ways to Coach Yourself to Success | From Caterpillars to Butterflies

How to Coach Yourself to Success | Classy Career Girl

I hope you like this episode – thanks for tuning in! Want to share your thoughts on the episode? Chime in on the feedback section or email me at charlene@fromcaterpillarstobutterflies.com – I’d love to hear it! If you think this episode can help your friends and family, please do share it with them too. You can find the show on iTunes, SoundcloudStitcher, GooglePlay, and Podbean. You can also find me on social media, on FacebookInstagram, and Twitter.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Investing In A Life Coach

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Do I need a life coach?

Short answer: Yes.

Long answer: Coaches help you get from where you are to where you want to be. It sounds cliche but it’s true. It’s not uncommon to receive support and guidance from another person. People generally work with life coaches specifically because:

  • They feel unfulfilled and want more out of life – Do you ever think to yourself, “I feel unfulfilled”? Working with a coach could help you identify exactly what’s missing, why it’s missing, and how to get it.
  • They feel out of balance – With all the roles people play with competing goals it’s easy to get out of balance. Working with a coach can help you create a balance in your life based on your priorities, values and goals. Your coach can also hold you accountable to your new balance structure.
  • They don’t know who they are – This person asks themselves, “Who am I?” They have lost sense of who they are and what they want. They have a hard time finding their place in the world. They don’t “fit in” with their current surroundings. Or they lack congruence in what they say, believe, and do. They may have gone through a major transition such as a marriage, divorce, empty nester, etc. They may have been subject to a bully at home or at work which has left them insecure and lost. Most people never take the time to really dig deep into who they are. It shows in the life they live and the things they settle for.
  • They have a major decision that troubles them – This was me. I was in a relationship that didn’t feel right. On the surface I couldn’t tell if it was me bringing baggage from a previous relationship into that relationship or if it was him. Talking with my coach helped me sort out my thoughts, my feelings, and my needs. I was able to think clearly about what I was experiencing and decide if that was the right relationship for me. A lot of times we harbor so much responsibility for things that we shouldn’t. We think that it must be us so we’re reluctant to make the decisions that we need to make in order to create our own happiness. (BTW – it was him 😉 )
  • They have big goals – One of the biggest benefits of having a coach (whether it’s business, life, health, etc.) is the accountability factor. Generally, when you make a commitment to another person you keep it. When you make a commitment to yourself a lot of times you don’t keep it. Let’s just be honest. When you know you have to report to someone else you’re likelihood of following through increases. In fact, research shows that your likelihood of accomplishing a goal increases to 95% when you have a scheduled appointment with your accountability partner or coach. How would you like to accomplish 95% of your goals?

What is a life coach?

A life coach is a professional who works with you to accomplish certain goals in your life and overcome challenges standing in your way. They are trained with a variety of tools and techniques to help their clients create their desired results for their life. Coaches may have a certain specialty such as relationship coaching or parenting coaching.

Why is working with a life coach valuable?

A lot of people are living unfulfilling lives that lack purpose. They have been in this cycle of “nothingness” for years. I talk to women all the time who say they have felt unfulfilled for years. Why is that? Working with a coach can help you break the negative cycles in your life. Whether that be the cycle of living an unfulfilling, uninspiring life year after year despite making a resolution to change every January or the cycle of constantly sabotaging your dreams and your relationships. A coach can help you get out of your own way and finally move forward.

Coaches provide outside perspective. They call you out when you need to be called out. They stretch you. They help you to get out of your head or out of your emotions so that you can make the best decision for you, your family, and your future. A good coach holds the vision you have for your life for you. She will hold you to your values when you are relaxing them. A coach is on your side. No, scratch that. A coach is on the side of your vision, your values, and your authentic self. She stands for those things even when you’re not.

What’s the difference between therapy and life coaching?

Therapy generally focuses on the past. Life coaching focuses on the future. Therapy asks, “How did you get here?” Life coaching ask, “Where are you going?” Therapy focuses a great deal on emotionally healing. Life coaching focuses on mastering your mindset. Therapy often serves as a release of thoughts and feeling related to an experience(s). Coaching focuses on the solution or best next step as it relates to the experience.  Both will help you improve your life.

How does life coaching work?

Depending on the coach your first interaction with them may be a clarity or strategy session. The main purpose of this session is to help understand what the potential client’s situation is so that the coach can ascertain if they can help them. There’s no reason to take someone’s investment if you can’t actually help them. During this call, the potential client will also be able to decide if they want to partner with that particular coach on their goals.

Once there is a mutual decision to move forward you will likely receive a welcome packet with an agreement spelling out the terms of your relationship, an initial client intake form, an onboarding questionnaire to define your goals and objectives, and details on how to schedule your first session. The first session is generally the longest and can last up to 2 – 3 hours. This is where the coach will review your welcome packet materials with you, dive deeper into what you most want to accomplish during your time together, and map out how you will work together to accomplish your goals and what to expect in general.

After your first session you will meet with your coach with regularity. This may be weekly or biweekly. The sessions may last 30 minutes to an hour. Most likely you will meet via phone, but you could also meet in person with your coach. Each session will be geared towards helping you achieve your goal. Depending on the coaching program your coach may set the general theme for each session. Other times you may set the theme for the session. For example, in my Rediscover You 12 week private intensive I take women through a journey to getting back to their authentic self. In my Transform Your Life 12 week private intensive the client sets the agenda (with my support) based on the transformation they’d like to see.

Your coach will likely have assignments and exercises for you to complete in between sessions. This may be to help you overcome a mental block you are experiencing. It may be to help you identify what’s the right balance to seek in your life (see the Life Balance Wheel). It may be to help you get super clear on what you really want.  Your coach may also send you additional resources as they see fit.

Meeting with your coach regularly helps to ensure you are making progress.

How many sessions do I need to see results?

It depends on your particular situation. I generally recommend working with your coach for at least three months to see the most transformation. It’s similar to your health. You wouldn’t work out one day and expect to lose weight. However, I do offer packages with as little as three sessions.

Do I really need a life coach?

Yes! Some of the most successful people in the world have a coach. Top coaches earn a million dollars per client. Yes, some people believe in the power of coaching so much they are willing to invest a million dollars.

Luckily, the investment to partner with me on the change you want to create in your life is not a million dollars (yet). To apply for a complimentary Rediscover You clarity session with me go to www.transformwithcharlene.com.

Additional Resources:

7 Powerful Stories of How Life Coaching Changes Lives

19 Life Changing Lessons From Amazing Life Coaches

26 Things Your Life Coach Would Tell You (if you had one)

One-On-One Life Coaching With Charlene

Video: Coaching – Take Your Life From Good to Great

 


Video: Coaching – Take Your Life From Good to Great

“Life Coaching is your opportunity to take your life from good to great.”

Hi there! I’m Charlene, certified life coach and founder of fromcaterpillarstobutterflies.com.

Have you wanted something for your life that you just couldn’t seem to achieve? At one point or another I think we all have. I was talking to a woman today who said that she feels like she fails every year. Why? Because you sets goals for herself, she starts off great, and then fizzles out. She never accomplishes her goals. Can you relate?

I believe your life is transformed by the consistent, disciplined actions that you take on a regular basis. It’s not some magical, spontaneous event. It’s a series of recurring, maybe even mundane, actions that you take. If you can’t stay in action, you can’t transform your life.

This is where accountability comes in. Accountability is one of the most powerful aspects of coaching. Research shows that the chances of accomplishing a goal increases to 95% when you have an appointment with an accountability partner or coach. 95%!

How would you like to accomplish 95% of your goals?

Accountability and coaching is the answer.

Coaching can also help you lead a more balanced life. Sometimes we’re so in the routine of life that we never step back to assess what’s going on. Am I happy? Am I focused on the things that matter most to me? Working with a coach can help you be more mindful about how you spend your time and about the choices you make.

Another benefit is achieving personal fulfillment. Ultimately, what we all want is to be fulfilled. We just don’t know how to get there. We don’t do the inner work to understand what fulfillment even means to us and how our daily lives align with our specific idea of fulfillment.

I could go on and on about the benefits of coaching.

In a nutshell, coaching is a journey, a journey that takes you from where you are to where you want to be. This journey involves self-discovery. It involves transforming your thoughts and your habits so that you can transform your life. It’s learning how to get out of your own way and to finally stop the self sabotage. Coaching is a journey that is unique to you that unleashes the unique strengths and desires inside of you. It’s a journey to the real you.

It’s a journey from good to great.

Or maybe even not-so-good to good.

Oprah Winfrey has been said to have four coaches. Tony Robbins himself said that he has three. I have a coach and my coach has a coach. It’s not a matter of if you should partner with a professional coach to create a balanced, fulfilling, authentic and influential life. It’s a matter of who will you work with?

Are you ready to take your life from good to great? I invite you to sign up for a private, complimentary Transform Your Life clarity call with me @ www.transformwithcharlene.com. Let’s chat about where you are versus where you want to be and if I’m the right coach to guide you on your journey.

To Learn More About Coaching Read These Related Articles:

Frequently Asked Questions About Investing in A Life Coach

7 Powerful Stories of How Life Coaching Changes Lives

19 Life Changing Lessons From Amazing Life Coaches

26 Things Your Life Coach Would Tell You (if you had one)

One-On-One Life Coaching With Charlene


How to Unleash the Power Within

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I spent four days in Dallas at Tony Robbin’s Unleash the Power Within seminar. It is utterly amazing and I can’t wait to go again. There’s really something life changing about being immersed in environments that push you to be the person you’ve really been all along. I absolutely love these types of events. I’m still reeling off of the experience I had. In this post, I want to share some of the insights I gained at the event.

Tony’s Wisdom: My past does not equal my future.

I truly believe a lot of people aren’t living their best life, because they’re living their worst past. All the things they should not have done or should have done. They are living their mistakes. They are living other people’s mistakes. They are living events that are long gone except in their own memories. I know some people have been through unimaginable things. I don’t mean to disregard those experiences. But the fact of the matter is – when you let go of what’s in your hand (head, heart) you can grab hold of something new.

Tony says, “The only reason you don’t have what you want is the because of the story you keep telling yourself about why you don’t have it.” That story was created some time ago and was most likely created as a result of something that happened. Maybe someone told you something about yourself. (You’re stupid). Maybe you witnessed something happening. Maybe you did something yourself. As a result you told yourself a story about why that happened and you’ve been living by that story ever since.

Charlene’s Take: At any given moment I get to decide what I want and that decision doesn’t have to be related to any other decision I’ve made before this moment.

Tony’s Wisdom: The number 1 ingredient to achievement is hunger that doesn’t go away.

Ask yourself, “What does life on my terms look like?” “What do I really want?” “What do I want more of?” “What do I want less of?” In order to create a life on your terms you must master the science (not art) of achievement. The science of achievement means that success leaves clues. If you want to achieve something in particular find someone who has already achieved it and follow their clues.

Charlene’s Take: Never get comfortable. Never get distracted. Never get full.

Tony’s Wisdom: Fear is holding you back.

It’s not your lack of resources or creativity. It’s not your past or your parents. It’s not where you live or where you’re from. It’s fear. We’re afraid of primarily one thing – not being enough. We fear if we’re not enough we won’t be loved. This fear has the capacity to control our lives and at times it does. We mistakenly believe we’re afraid of success or failure or judgment. Ultimately, we afraid of not being enough. We can never eliminate the fear completely. We can minimize the impact it has on our life. We have to learn to “dance with fear.”

Charlene’s Take: I am enough and I always will be. (So are you!)

Tony’s Wisdom: You do not plateau in this life.

You are either growing or dying. If your relationship isn’t growing, it’s dying. If your business isn’t growing, it’s dying. If you aren’t growing, you’re dying.

Charlene’s Take: There’s no such thing as standing still. If you think you’re standing still you’re falling backwards.

Tony’s Wisdom: Take massive action

Not just a little bit of action. Massive action. Don’t just do what you’re told to do. Do more. If you’re at the gym and your trainer tells you to do 10 reps, do 12. Don’t go after things like everyone else does. Don’t be good at it. Be a mastery at it.

When I was in college (Florida A& M – go rattlers!) we had this saying, “To be early is to be on time. To be on time is to be late. To be late is unacceptable.” As I think about taking massive action and mastering it I think about another version of this saying. “To do outstanding work is to be on par. To be on par is to be below average. To be below average is unacceptable.”

Charlene’s Take: “Don’t let good get in the way of great.”

Tony’s Wisdom: Celebrate

If you’re on track celebrate. If you’re off track celebrate. Celebrate the fact that you noticed you were off course and are able to course correct.

Tony’s Wisdom: When you’re off course change your approach not your goals.

You can change your strategy, your delivery, your tactics, your actions, your schedule or anything else. Just don’t change your goals. If this is really what you want why should you change it? Unless you don’t really want it.

Charlene’s Take: I am so glad this was said.

I see it all the time as I network with other entrepreneurs. When they’re off course they change their entire business model. I always tell them something I heard long ago, “You cannot hit a moving target.”

Tony’s Wisdom: All progress comes from breaking patterns.

Don’t “should” all over yourself. I should do this. I should do that. Learn to interrupt your patterns so that you can progress in your life. If you are struggling in your relationship with someone else leverage this knowledge. Break their patterns. One example Tony gave was making someone laugh when they’re angry. Or asking a question that’s unrelated when someone is going off on a rant.

Charlene’s Take: Change your habits (patterns) change your life.

Tony’s Wisdom: Proximity is power.

Find a peer group that plays the game of life much higher than you or at least on the same level. Find a team that will challenge you, not just accept you. If you associate with people who are playing lower than you and not challenging you, you will be the one who changes (decreases) to match their level. It’s the law of the lowest common denominator.

Charlene’s Take: I don’t know who originally said this but, “Don’t be the smartest person in the room.”

Tony’s Wisdom: Learn how to adjust incrementally. 2 mm.

The 2 mm rule says that subtle changes can lead to massive improvements. There’s a plastic surgeon who gets paid millions of dollars just by moving facial features 2 mm. A 2 mm shift in someone’s eyes or lips can make their face “beautiful”. A 2 mm shift in golf can win the game. 2 mm shifts are all that’s needed a lot of times.

Charlene’s Take: You don’t have to have the next big idea to transform your life or business.

Small adjustments can be game changing. It’s similar to the butterfly effect. A butterfly flapping its wings can cause a tornado in another part of the country. What is your 2 mm shift capable of accomplishing?

Tony’s Wisdom: Training never stops when you want an extraordinary life.

Get a coach to hold you accountable and give you ongoing feedback. For the record, Tony Robbins has 3 coaches. You need someone who is not going to let you off the hook. You don’t need someone who will tell you what to do. When you’re making excuses and not following through you need someone who says, “F- you. Get up!” (Tony’s words. Not mine).

Go to self improvement events at least twice a year (every six months). Read and listen to inspiring, transformational content EVERYDAY. Read something with strategy, philosophy, instructions that can create a greater quality of life every month.

Charlene’s Take: If you want to transform some aspect of your life and you have yet to do it on your own thus far, it’s time to invest in a coach.

I still have pages of notes from the event, but I will stop here from now. If you take just a few of these lessons and apply them to your life you will undoubtedly see the power within you start to unleash. If you want to explore partnering with a coach to help you transform the life you have into the life you want I invite you to sign up for a complimentary Transform Your Life clarity session with me. Sign up at www.transformwithcharlene.com.


26 Things Your Life Coach Would Tell You (if you had one)

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Life coaches partner with healthy people (see #6) to take their lives from good to great. A part of this process involves telling you like it is (even if it hurts) and giving you a new perspective. A good coach will push you to become the person you said you wanted to become and to achieve the things you said you wanted to achieve. A good coach will keep you on track, redirect you when you’re off track and hold the vision for you when you’re ready to give up. Her words are powerful and cause you to think and then rethink some things. Here’s 26 things you would hear your life coach say to you in some variation if you actually had a life coach.

  1. “Taking personal accountability is a beautiful thing because it gives us complete control of our destinies.” – Heather Schuck
  2. “You will never find the real truth among people that are insecure or have egos to protect. Truth over time becomes either guarded or twisted as their perspective changes; it changes with the seasons of their shame, love, hope or pride.” – Shannon L. Alder
  3. “The very things we wish to avoid, neglect and flee from turn out to be the ‘prima materia’ from which all real growth comes.” – Andrew Harvey
  4. “There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” – Aldous Huxley
  5. “Too often, people get stuck in a state of over-thinking, the result is that they never reach a decision.” – Steve Backley
  6. “Coaching doesn’t make sick people well…it helps healthly people become extra-ordinart.” – Thomas Leonard
  7. “Live your life with courageous integrity. Do the right thing, not the easy thing.”- Domonique Bertolucci
  8. “There is a big difference between being self-ist and being selfish —  putting yourself first doesn’t mean  you have to put everyone else last.” – Domonique Bertolucci
  9. “What do you dream that people will say about you and your life?” – Ken Poirot
  10. “Optimism is the one quality more associated with success and happiness than any other.” –  Brian Tracy
  11. “Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.” – Doris Mortman
  12. “We only become what we are by the radical and deep-seated refusal of that which others have made of us.” – Jean-Paul Sartre
  13. “The more you talk about it, rehash it, rethink it, cross analyze it, debate it, respond to it, get paranoid about it, compete with it, complain about it, immortalize it, cry over it, kick it, defame it, stalk it, gossip about it, pray over it, put it down or dissect its motives it continues to rot in your brain. It is dead. It is over. It is gone. It is done. It is time to bury it because it is smelling up your life and no one wants to be near your rotted corpse of memories and decaying attitude. Be the funeral director of your life and bury that thing!” – Shannon L. Alder
  14. “You can’t stop negative thoughts from coming in, but you can make sure they leave as quickly as they enter.” – Nkem Paul
  15. “Take the next 24 hours and just relax with the knowing that everything is okay. Let go of the stress and worry for one day and see what happens.” – Mike Basevic
  16. “There is no satisfaction that can compare with looking back across the years and finding you’ve grown in self-control, judgment, generosity, and unselfishness.” – Ella Wheeler Wilcox
  17. “Fear regret more than failure.” – Taryn Rose
  18. “Everything with no exception is a choice. The choice can be either conscious or unconscious depending on the level of self-awareness. The more self-aware we become, the faster we can make our unconscious choices known to us.” – Raphael Zernoff
  19. “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
  20. “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” – Neale Donald Walsh
  21. “Not to dream boldly may turn out to be simply irresponsible.” – George Leonard
  22. “You cannot teach humans anything. You can only help them discover it within themselves.” – Galileo
  23. “The present moment is the only moment available to us, and it is the door to all moments.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
  24. “Any human anywhere will blossom in a hundred unexpected talents and capacities simply by being given the opportunity to do so.” – Doris Lessing
  25. “Progress always involves risk. You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.” – Frederick B. Wilcox
  26. “The bible says you have not because you ask now. I’d venture to say that you ask not because you see not. In order to reach your highest potential you have to be able to see big.” – Charlene Dior

Want to hear a life coach say these things to you? Sign up for a complimentary Transform Your Life clarity session to see how you and I might partner together to take your life from good to great. Sign up for your 20 minute session here ===> Transform Your Life Clarity Session

Additional Resources:

Frequently Asked Questions About Investing in A Life Coach

7 Powerful Stories of How Life Coaching Changes Lives

19 Life Changing Lessons From Amazing Life Coaches

One-On-One Life Coaching With Charlene

Video: Coaching – Take Your Life From Good to Great


19 Life Changing Lessons from Amazing Life Coaches

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There’s no shortage of amazing life coaches to help us transform the way we live our lives. We know them, we love them and we trust their wisdom. I’ve compiled a list of 19 transformation, life-changing quotes from life coaches I simply adore. There’s no special order. Enjoy!

1. Don’t worry about what you don’t know

“Do you ever find yourself with a genius idea, but paralyzed by thought “Yeah, but I don’t know how to do that…” Here’s the deal. 99% of what you need to do to grow your business or grow your life requires you do something you’ve never done before. It’s the beautiful common denominator of self-evolution.
That’s why everything is figure-outable is my default mantra. If I don’t know how to do something, I’m pretty sure there’s someone else on the planet who does.” – Marie Forleo

2. Dive deeply into the person you want to be

“Don’t dance around the perimeter of the person you want to be. Dive deeply and fully into it.” – Gabrielle Bernstein

3. When you long for something better have faith in that longing

“We sense love, but we don’t believe in it. We save our faith for fear. But ultimately, there is a quiet voice in each of us that longs for something better.” – Gabrielle Bernstein

4. Taking action = decision. Not taking action = no decision.

“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” – Tony Robbins

5. Your life can be a masterpiece

“I challenge you to make your life a masterpiece. I challenge you to join the ranks of those people who live what they teach, who walk their talk.” – Tony Robbins

6. Use your beliefs to empower you

“Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy. Human beings have the awesome ability to take any experience of their lives and create a meaning that disempowers them or one that can literally save their lives.” – Tony Robbins

7. Promising just isn’t good enough

“The road of life is strewn with the bodies of promising people. People who show promise, yet lack the confidence to act. People who make promises they are unable to keep. People who promise to do tomorrow what they could do today. Promising young stars, athletes, entrepreneurs who wait for promises to come true. Promise without a goal and a plan is like a barren cow. You know what she could do if she could do it, but she can’t. Turn your promise into a plan. Make no promise for tomorrow if you are able to keep it today. And if someone calls you promising, know that you are not doing enough today.” ― Iyanla Vanzant

8. Always take a chance

“If you are afraid to take a chance, take one anyway. What you don’t do can create the same regrets as the mistakes you make.” ― Iyanla Vanzant

9. Invest in your inside – your heart, your mindset, your vision

“So many of us invest a fortune making ourselves look good to the world, yet inside we are falling apart. It’s time to invest on the inside.” ― Iyanla Vanzant

10. Align your life with your gifts and you will be successful

“God made no mistakes when He created you. You were uniquely designed for success in your purpose. When you align your life with your strengths—those innate qualities you were gifted with—you will tap into a level of grace that empowers you to achieve things you could never accomplish in your strength alone.” ― Valorie Burton

11. Fight for what you see in your future. Fight for the vision to come to pass.

“God gives you the sight, the right, and the might to do great things, but you have to develop the fight!” ― Tim Storey

12. #BeReallyYou – it’s an amazing adventure

“You will have to fight for your comeback, but you have the three Members of the Godhead leading you, supporting you, and supernaturally enabling you in that fight…. Getting past your faults and weaknesses is the biggest fight you will take on, but the victories are sweeter than anything you can imagine. Fighting for your comeback is fighting to be who you were created to be, and becoming “yourself” is an amazing adventure.” ― Tim Storey

13. Try. Fail. Learn. Try again.

“Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn. Studies show that people who worry about mistakes shut down, but those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well. Success is built on failure.” – Martha Beck

14. Clarity = transformation

“When your clarity meets your conviction and you apply action to the equation, your world will begin to transform before your eyes.” ― Lisa Nichols

15. You don’t need permission to #BeReallyYou

“I am no longer asking for permission to be me. I’m giving notice.” – Lisa Nichols

16. You don’t have to know the specifics in order to take a step

“You don’t always have to know exactly what you’re doing or where you’re going. You just have to be willing to take the next step. Sometimes clear and powerful. Sometimes with blind unwavering faith.”  – Lisa Nichols

17. Inaction gets you nowhere

“We’re all ignorant in one way or another. There are things we simply don’t know, what we don’t know. When it comes to action, more than likely you know what to do, you’re just stopping yourself from doing it because you don’t know what exact actions will get you the results you want. However, the one thing I guarantee won’t get the results you want is INACTION.” – Sean Smith

I’m going to throw myself in here. Hey, I think I’m pretty amazing!

18. Rewrite your life script

“Sometimes we get stuck in the same script, different cast lifestyle. The people and places may change, but the script we’re living by doesn’t. As a result, we never create the transformation in our lives we’ve been yearning for. We have to be brave enough to pull out our red ink pen and mark up, scratch out, rewrite our life script. Until then, we will say stuck in chaos, unfulfillment, and dissatisfaction.” – Charlene Dior

19. Mediocrity on a platter is still mediocrity

“Life and the people it will at times attempt to serve you mediocrity on a platter. Because it’s dressed up you might be inclined to take it. If you don’t people may resort to saying (and believing) you are ungrateful or greedy. They might not even know for themselves that what they have offered to you is mediocre at best so don’t despise them. Simple thank life or whomever for the gesture and wait for something amazing.” – Charlene Dior

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Additional Resources:

Frequently Asked Questions About Investing in A Life Coach

7 Powerful Stories of How Life Coaching Changes Lives

26 Things Your Life Coach Would Tell You (if you had one)

One-On-One Life Coaching With Charlene

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