Stop Valuing Money Over Your Dreams
I work with women who want more out of life. Somehow they got lost in the shuffle of life. They’ve lost sense of who they are. Or they have high hopes for life and are ready to finally go for it. I had an exploratory call with a woman recently. She has really ambitious goals for her life. She was having a hard time getting focused and being productive. We discussed potentially working together. She needed some time to think about it. We scheduled a time to check back in and move forward if that was her decision. At 12 am in the morning the day we were scheduled to touch base she sends me an email. She says that she and her husband are going to sit down and create a strategy for achieving her goals.
That’s a great concept. I totally get it. I “try” to do things on my own at first some times as well. But who am I kidding? If I couldn’t do it on my own this far what makes me think I will magically be able to do it on my own?
Her and her husband are probably not going to sit down to do anything!
I don’t say that to insult her. I’m not trying to call her out. I honor her. I respect her and I believe we would work well together. That’s why I shared with her my program. It was a win-win. I don’t offer my services to everyone I meet. I believe in her vision.
I know from experience, thinking that we are going to magically be able to accomplish something on our own that has eluded us this far is one of the ways we sabotage ourselves. We are going around in circles, pretending like we’re making progress. It’s a way we give ourselves permission to play it safe. We give ourselves permission to procastinate.
“If you have goals and procrastination, you have nothing. If you have goals and you take action, you will have anything you want.” – Thomas J. Vilord
What it boils down to is that we value money more than we value transformation. Money is tangible. I can see it, touch it, feel it and count it. How do I count my transformation?
Holding on to our money is a false sense of security. Your real security is in your ability to consistently grow.
Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning. – Benjamin Franklin
We think that our money is like our virginity. We think once it’s gone it never comes back. But that’s not true! It always comes back.
A few years ago I purchased a rental house that went way over budget. I emptied my savings account. I maxed out my credit cards. I took money out of my 401(k). This house went way over budget and you know what? I survived. I wasn’t eating Ramen Noodles. My financial needs continued to be met. Life went on. Now I have an additional property added to my portfolio with positive monthly cash flow and equity. If I was too afraid of losing my money I wouldn’t have that.
What I learned from that experience is that money always comes back. It’s the cycle of life.
You spend money.
You earn money.
You give money.
You receive money.
It always comes back. I have accepted that I have to let the money go when it wants to go so that it can come when I want it to come.
It’s worth it to me to invest my money for the opportunity to change my life and my wealth. Is it worth it to you?
I believe that when you are climbing the mountain that is your highest vision and you reach the top you will see bigger, better, more magical, more fulfilling mountains you can also climb. However, if you never start the journey up the first mountain you will never see the others. As long as you stay at the foot of the mountain you can’t see all that is available to you. When you pass up on one opportunity to change your life you are inevitably passing up every other opportunity that would have been revealed to you in due time.
“Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back.” – Robert Frost
Way leads on to way. Dream leads on to dream. Vision leads on to vision. Progress leads on to more progress.
Standing still does not lead on to way. Circling the mountain does not lead on to way. Thinking and planning without acting does not lead on to progress or dreams or visions.
No. Way leads on to way.
If something has the opportunity to change your life you should go for it NOW. A lot of times we fear losing our money more than we fear losing our dreams. So we keep our money and lose our dreams. We kid ourselves into thinking that we will accomplish our goals on our own. Yet, we rarely do. So we lose our dreams forever at worst. Or we delay them two, ten, twenty years at best.
Your money will come back to you. It’s just the cycle of life. Will your dreams come back to you?
“Hold onto dreams for if dreams die life is like a broken-winged bird that cannot fly.” – Langston Hughes
Give yourself a chance for once. Stop giving your bank account a chance to look good. Give yourself a chance to look and feel good. Give yourself a chance to be who you’ve always wanted to be and to live the life you’ve always wanted to live.
Value the transformation more than you value the money. Have more faith in your vision than in your money. That’s how you change your life. That’s how way leads on to way.
If you’re ready to start the journey towards your own personal transformation, I invite you to apply for a complimentary, private clarity call with me. Apply at www.transformwithcharlene.com.
