Yes, it’s true. I don’t like brussel sprouts. I’ve tried to. I’ve experimented with different recipes and cooking methods. Still I just don’t like them. Yet, no one knows that I don’t like brussel sprouts (well until now….shhhh don’t tell anyone). Do you know why no one knows? Because I don’t talk about it. Ever. In fact, I don’t even think about it.
It amazes me when I see or hear someone constantly talking about or posting about someone or something that they swear they can’t stand. I’m thinking,”Why are you always thinking about it then?” Why is that thing always on their heart if they don’t like it? I do not carry brussel sprouts around in my heart. Trust me!
I say that it amazes me, but honestly I understand. And I’m not trying to negate what anyone feels. I get it. There’s a disconnect between what that person believes and what they want to believe. Take for example someone who grew up in a spiritual household that worshipped God. Something bad happens to that family. A death. Maybe a divorce or financial troubles. As a result of that thing happening there just can’t be a God of love and healing and restoration. So God doesn’t exist anymore.
Or perhaps someone has issues with money. They never had any. They were told money is the root of all evil. Or maybe money destroyed some aspect of their life. So now money is the enemy and people with money are the devil.
Sometimes when we can’t reconcile why things happen we have to make up stories to rationalize it. We have to establish a new “truth”, because the old one wasn’t good enough. But that doesn’t solve the problem. The problem is that we are hurting or we’re afraid of being hurt. Covering up that hurt and fear doesn’t help. It just creates a new problem. A problem where there is incongruence with what we believe and what we think.
When we’re constantly thinking about and talking about something we don’t like there’s a good chance that we’re trying to convince our true selves to believe this new story. If we could just convince our selves of this new truth we wouldn’t hurt anymore. We wouldn’t be mad at God or money or love or whatever it is we’re mad at. That doesn’t work though. It never does. That’s why they keep talking about it. When the soul needs healing you can’t skirt around it. You have to heal your soul. You have to heal your relationship with God or money or love.
How? You take small steps. You say, “God, my heart and soul are in turmoil over my belief in You. Give me wisdom. Help me to see. My heart is open.” You attempt to trace back the events of your life to see what got you here so you can examine the unhealed parts of you. You let yourself feel the hurt and cry the tears. You decide to trust a little. You open your heart a little to love. You go out on a date or hold hands with someone special. You must allow yourself to entertain the idea that what you’ve been saying to yourself all this time may not be the truth.
People don’t naturally gravitate towards negative things. Not at the core of who they are. We embrace laughter, love, bright sunny days, and joy. Your soul is love. God is love. You have to know that wherever it is that you don’t feel love you need healing.
I want to specify that I’m not talking about the things that are against love that you take a stand against. It you want to fight the war on drugs or poverty you should. If the message you send is grounded in love, positivity and improvement, continue to share your message.
If your message is one of hate or dislike and is unproductive to anyone including you, pay attention to where that is coming from. Ask yourself, “Why am I so against…..?” “Why am I always posting negative comments about…..?” “Why is this on my heart and mind so much?”
Paying attention to your routine, negative chatter can be life changing. It’s a clue to who you really are and what you really believe. You just have to follow the clues. Be willing to do some soul searching and self-discovery. When you align your thoughts and actions with your true beliefs you will find a joy and peace like you’ve never known before. I pray you open up your heart enough to receive.