Could it be possible, if only just a little that you sabotage your own success? We like to think that the enemy is somewhere out there. Somewhere outside of ourselves. Fortunately, that’s not the case more often than not. Fortunately, we are the biggest thing holding us back. Fortunately, we can change that.
How do you sabotage yourself?
1. You make goals and then don’t accomplish them.
In fact, you don’t even get close. You start and stop. Then start and stop again. That is if you even start at all. Don’t let your new year’s resolution become your new decade resolution. What’s a new decade resolution? It’s where you set the same goal year after year after year. You never accomplish it. You don’t make any headway. Come January 1st, you announce to everyone your (old) new year’s resolution. You have been resolving to accomplish the same goal for so long a decade has passed. Or close to it.
2. You RSVP for events that can transform your life and then don’t show up.
How many times have you come across a really great event, signed your name on the dotted line professing to be there, and then not show up? Or maybe you’ve been planning on joining an organization, you told your best girlfriend you would check out the next meeting, yet you never do? You say things like, “I’m too tired to go.” What you’re really doing is sabotaging yourself. Honor your first decision. Honor the decision you made when your imagination was full with possibilities.
3. You buy books you don’t read.
You want to change your life. You really want to improve this particular area. You want to create something new in your life. You come across what could be a life-changing book. You buy it, browse the table of contents and then use it as a coaster on your night table. You convince yourself that you will get to it “someday”. Someday never comes. Read the book already! Books you don’t read can’t improve your life.
“It isn’t what the book costs; it’s what it will cost you if you don’t read it.” Jim Rohn
4. You put yourself last.
How can you ever achieve success if you never give yourself permission to be successful? Everyone else has your permission to follow their heart’s desire. Yet, you don’t give yourself the opportunity to follow your own heart’s desire. You say that you’ll focus on you once everyone else is settled. Here’s the truth you need to accept: no one is ever settled unless they’re in the grave. Stop waiting on someone else’s life to “settle” before you live yours.
5. You talk yourself out of everything.
You decide and then un-decide. You think of a million things that could go wrong. Deep inside you want to move forward, but you let fear stop you. You’re afraid to take chance, make a wrong decision, or waste your time and money. You would move forward in a heartbeat if you knew everything would work out right. But you don’t know. You’ll never know. You’re not a psychic.
“Whenever you’re making an important decision, first ask if it gets you closer to your goals or farther away. If the answer is closer, pull the trigger. If it’s further away, make a different choice. Conscious choice making is a critical step in making your dreams a reality.” – Jillian Michaels
7. You don’t accept help.
You can’t do it all by yourself. No one can. You don’t know everything. You don’t have time to do everything. You will need help from other people. Every time you turn down help you could actually use, you are sabotaging your own success. You are standing in your own way by not getting out of the way and letting someone else step in.
What it all boils down to is this: You don’t even give yourself a fighting chance to accomplish your dreams. You stand in your own way. You pull yourself down whenever you attempt to rise up. Anytime you make a decision that drives you away from your goals you are sabotaging yourself. When you spend un-budgeted money despite your goal of buying a house, you are sabotaging yourself. When you eat junk food despite “trying” to lose weight, you are sabotaging yourself. When you refuse help that would move you forward you are sabotaging yourself. When you don’t equip yourself with the knowledge and inspiration to tackle your dreams, you are sabotaging yourself. The only way you will truly accomplish the highest vision you have for your life is by learning to get out of your own way.
So now what?
If this resonates with you at all and you know you are the only person that is holding you back I invite you to a complimentary, Transform Your Life Clarity call with me. We will work together to identify ways you’ve been sabotaging yourself, what to do about it, and how to finally get unstuck. Sign up here: Transform Your Life Clarity Call